“It happened for a reason.” This platitude pisses me off more than any other. “If God closes a door, he opens a window.” NO. Fuck you.
I really hate that crap. Sometimes things happen for NO reason. Explain cancer. Accidents. Crib death. Job loss. All that crap. Do I think things happen to make way for better things to happen? NO.
Don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean that I don’t believe in God or that you can’t come back from adversity. But I don’t think that bad things happening to good people means that there is something better to come. Sometimes it just sucks. That’s it.
I had repeat shoulder surgery at the beginning of July, and the recuperation is going pretty well. Better than last time, for sure. But a tough time with PT. I keep going, trying to manage the pain, but it is getting better. But are you saying that my first surgery failed so I can have a BETTER surgery? No. Fuck you. Going through this crazy pain AGAIN is something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
My mom dies of cancer. Reason? Cancer sucks, that’s why.
One of my friend’s husbands was struck by a car and died yesterday. We are all devastated. Should I tell my new widow friend that it happened for a reason and that it will make way for better? Hell no.
Hurricane Dorian devastated the Bahamas. Reason? That’s the way the planet works. No master plan. No other reason than that.
My point here is simple. Adversity, bad experiences, accidents. These things happen. Not because they are meant to be. But simple because they happen. You can persevere. You can move on. You can learn and grow. You can accept.
You can choose to be a better person each and every day. But don’t ever tell me that it happened for a reason. I might punch you.